The truth is, everyone has Fears, Doubts and Insecurities. No one is exempt from this, it’s just how you handle it that makes the difference.
It can be nerve racking to pitch a product to a customer, to talk to a stranger, to go somewhere you’ve never been, to move away from home, to break ties with lifelong friends, to take on a new career, to decide to get obsessed with your passions, or anything else that is outside of your norm, “the” norm, or away from your comfort zone.
Fear: an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat.
You have Fear because you lack of self confidence, insecure with your potential, you don’t know enough going into the situation, you’ve not prepared yourself for such circumstances, it’s something new, it’s unfamiliar. Not recognizing your true potential will always keep you in your comfort zone. What can you really accomplish in your comfort zone? That comfy 401k, the $40k a year job, a house with the little white picket fence, two dogs, two kids, a neighbor that you like, a neighbor you don’t like but pretend to, and the worry of paying the bills at the end of the month.
The truth is, as soon as you realize that your potential is far above any goal, or quota, or anything else, you will step out of your comfort zone and do the things that have often scared you.
Doubt: a feeling of uncertainty or lack of conviction.
This is the middle class, a place I want to escape from. I have Fear, Doubt, and Insecurity about leaving it though. People will say that when you reach the middle class, you will be richer than X% of people in the world. That money isn’t everything, that you need to relax, “it’s the journey, not the destination.” Well, right now I feel I’m on a journey straight to getting $700 a month for Social Security. That’s if the government doesn’t need a bail out for all the debt it will accumulate by the time I can retire, if I can retire. “But you have a 401k right?” I sure do…for now. You see, 401k’s are nice and all when the stock market doesn’t crash, and we are in a bull market (market going in an upward direction). The thing is, I have no control over the 401k. Then when we have a economic crisis, like in 2008 when Lehmans collapsed, taking the whole worlds economy with it, your sweet little 401k gets cut in half and frozen so you can’t withdraw it. If you could withdraw it, you get taxed like crazy! I stray from the subject…
Insecurity: uncertainty or anxiety about oneself; lack of confidence.
What are you insecure about? Yourself? The government? The economy? Your knowledge? Your job? The list could on for pages really. There’s a pattern here between Fear, Doubt, and Insecurity. Do you know what links them all together? It’s YOU. The truth is, if you don’t control your environment then someone else will. If you don’t everyone on the same page, and surround yourself with people who are on the same page, like minded people, the you are going to continue having this mental Fear-Doubt-Insecurity. It’s all a head game really.
So what do you do to conquer this? You can start by focusing on your goals, dreams, and aspirations. Become totally obsessed with them, taking massive action to accomplish them. Get yourself around like minded people. Get a mentor who is like minded and successful, someone you cannot currently out grow. Lastly, do the things that you fear the most. If that is moving away, then move away. If it is starting your own business, start your own business. Figure it out, do that, go all in, and keep focusing on your goals.
- Fear, Doubt & Insecurity: Everybody has it
- Get out of your comfort zone
- Get around like minded people
- Take massive action toward your goals